A Domestic Violence-TRO I Filed September 2018 Against Dr. John Velyvis, but was Wrongfully Denied Without a Hearing…..My DV-700 to Extend My DVRO Against Him “Went Awry” in the courthouse according to Judge Beverly Wood

Melissanne DV-TRO 2018

Judge Beverly Wood of Marin County Court has been embroiled with me since the beginning as she is with most wives in divorce in Marin County. She is biased toward Dr. Velyvis due to his position as a surgeon, and treats him as her peer overall. Disgusting.

I had a right to an automatic renewal of my expiring DVRO against Dr. John Velyvis in May 2017. My attorney, Arvin Lugay filed the correct paperwork for the matter. The Court failed to address it for quite some time. Judge Beverly Wood stated my filing (DV-700) must have, “went awry as often happens.” I was stunned. She basically made me begin all over again. Then denied it without a hearing. This is one of several orders currently  on Appeal with the San Francisco Appellate Court.

I had recused this judge for cause in October of 2017 at the recommendation of  Marin attorneys. She failed to step down, then ruled against me in EVERY SINGLE hearing afterwards. I have been retaliated against for filing Commission for Judicial Performance Complaints against her as well. She designated me a vexatious litigant in the summer of 2018 to block me from access to justice throughout the final divorce. I never wanted to be a Pro se litigant. She erred by not following the California Rules of Court concerning attorney retainer fees in my divorce. A manifestation of abuse of discretion in this case.

I have removed the children’s first names on DV-TRO.

I have been unprotected. This is what happens when a woman cannot afford proper counsel. Money talks in Marin County, California.


I Was Framed by Dr. John Velyvis and His Brother Dr. Peter Velyvis (2018) Concerning My Communication With the Immediate Velyvis Family.

Christine:Melissanne Email ThreadChristine Velyvis A

I am disappointed and ashamed of Dr. Peter Velyvis, John’s brother. He is an endodontist on the East Coast and is a decade younger than John. He blatently lied to protect John concerning communications between myself, and his wife Christine Velyvis from a period of summer 2017 to January 2018. His lies were used as EXHIBITS during our divorce in CA. They put me in a false light.

The fraudulent EXHIBITS consisted of emails between Christine Velyvis and myself, then forwarded to Peter Velyvis. It is not clear whether Christine Velyvis forwarded them to Peter, or if he forwarded them from his wife’s email to himself. Either way, the emails were then forwarded to Dr. John Velyvis’s underhanded divorce lawyer. In the emails to John’s lawyer, Dr. Peter Velyvis simply cuts and pastes fragments of the emails between myself and his wife. He made it “appear” that I had been communicating with him as well which is a lie. I have NEVER been in contact with him.

I contacted Christine Velyvis about her husband forwarding the emails to John’s attorney. She stated it was the first she had heard of it. She reminded me that John had threatened Peter with legal action should he fail to turn over any emails I had sent to them during our separation. Regardless, the fact that the emails were altered is wrongful.

In court, John stated his “family” had to block me because of the emails and calls. That is not true.

  1. There were not many emails, and Christine responded to them. There was never an issue;
  2. I only called her two or three times in a 9 month period. I left voice messages. She emailed me back. The blocking issue was a fabrication.
  3. Bottom line is that it isn’t against the law to communicate about separation with in-laws. I was very much silent with all but my sister-in-law, Christine Velyvis.

During our marriage, I was tight lipped with John’s siblings due to abuse. I had a “somewhat” relationship with my mother-in-law. John was estranged from his brother, Dr. Peter Velyvis. John told me he didn’t get along with Peter’s wife, Christine Velyvis. Regardless, Christine and I were both married to the brothers. She and I were Facebook friends, but didn’t communicate very much. They live on the East Coast and we on the West Coast.

Even though Christine and I were only related by marriage to the Velyvis brothers, we did communicate during my separation period. I never reached out to my mother-in-law, Claire Velyvis, my sister-in-law, Kristin Velyvis, or my brother-in-law, Dr. Peter Velyvis.

Dr. John Velyvis has two siblings, Dr. Peter Velyvis and Kristin Velyvis. His mother, Claire Velyvis is alive, and his father G. John Velyvis passed in 2014. After I separated from John, I did not communicate with any of them. This is important to note as Dr. John Velyvis has lied to others concerning me contacting his mother, brother and sister. I assure none of them would ever be able to substantiate the claim as I never did. The only family member I was in contact with was Christine Velyivs, who is Dr. Peter Velyvis’s wife. Again, we were both married to a Velyvis brother. The brothers were estranged.

John Velyvis threatened his brother with legal action, and little brother complied. Brother’s that both were and are covering up domestic violence. Two men with medical degrees. Pillars of our society? They should be held to a higher standard.

I have provided a link to the email correspondence between Christine and myself. Peter Velyvis simply sent my emails with no correspondence from his wife, and stated my emails were “unsolicitated. ”

I would like to give some background to  the December 2017 email I wrote. I received a “scant” portion of Divorce Discovery from John on or about December 21, 2017. As I was reviewing partial Bank Statements from him, I was taken aback by the way the credit card told the story of John’s courtship to this Kaitlyn Rebecca Dickens “AKA” Kaitlyn Woods. I believe John deliberatley charged the items for me to see them during the divorce process. This is the first moment I found out he was with this girl. The same girl he was exchanging emails with during our marriage.

The timeline: vacations, new Mercedes purchase, wedding ring, limo, tux rental, wedding attire, the Fairmont Hotel stay in San Francisco, and a florist. It was most obvious that this was a “recreaction” of our wedding at the Fairmont Hotel in San Francisco. Also, charges for false eyelash extensions, weaves, nails, pedicure, and such.

The whole thing was baffling. I felt I was reading the wrong bank statement. Thinking he must have sent our wedding. However, I never had eyelash extensions and weaves. I then saw the actual name Kaitlyn Dickens on the credit card for an airline ticket. I was taken aback at this “Mock Wedding. ” John and I were not divorced. I also just got out of a spinal sugery procedure. I reached out to my sister-in-law, Christine Velyvis.

I am of the opinion that they are binding together to keep up appearances. Two doctors, that are brothers. One Harvard and one Tufts. Prestige is more important than what is right with this family. Not the whole family but the immediate family.




Christine Velyvis A

Dr. John H. Velyvis, My Ex- Husband is My Abuser, and He Wants Me Dead. It is Not a Question of If, but a Question of When. I Am In Danger Everyday of Being Killed by This Man. I Have Been Bullied into Silence Until Now. I Have Been Hiding Out Since 2013. I Finally Left Him in the Fall of 2016. Hiding the Truth Has Been Harmful. He Hired a Crooked Defense Attorney. My Health and Recovery Has Been Harmed by Silence. Someone, Please Help Me. This is not a Joke. Don’t Allow Corruption to Prevail. Evidence Shows Abuse.

I first published this blog in 2017. I froze. I just couldn’t manage to verbalize my story. Over time, this is changing. I published details in 2018, and was admonished for doing so. That in itself, an injustice. I ended up deleting prior posts because of it.

The fact of the matter is I suffered abuse at the hands of a trusted companion. I was bullied into silence more than a few times. I have a right to speak out. Everything I post will be true. Everything I have posted thus far is true.  I am a survivor of violence. I can post for certain that MONEY and PRESTIGIOUS OCCUPATION can allow a perpretrator tor roam free to abuse again.

My abuser was arrested in the summer of 2013 for hurting me.  I refused to cooperate with the county District Attorney at the time. The perpetrator’s criminal defense attorney, and his own mother bullied me into submission at the time.  I look back and wonder how I could have been so weak at the time. Yet, I was weak.

Less than one year later, my abuser was arrested again for assaulting me. I am embarrassed to say that I was once again a weak fool, bullied into silence. The abuse continued for years. When I finally did come forward, particular entitities covered up for my  abuser. I believe it had to do with 1. Social Status; 2. Abuser’s Attorney; 3. Judge Beverly Wood of Marin County, CA (judicial misconduct.)

Non-Fatal Strangulation, A Journey of Survival and Overcoming Trauma….Silent No More…

The next several posts detail my journey of injury, medical procedures and healing. I attempt to break the silence that trauma victims endure. I was one such victim, but now breaking out to speak fully of my experience. This blog is simply evolving as I begin to break through the writing blocks. I have been frozen time and time again, and not completely thawed. I have also been threatened into silence. Why should I cover up the physical injuries I have been left to endure? I want to hop, skip, run, play with my grand-baby, and enjoy everyday life. I hope you find strength to speak out for those who have been marginalized, sidelined and scapegoated. Speak the truth………..